A big ‘Thank You’ to our colleagues at Ashcroft Surgery in Bradford for allowing us to use this information to help support our patients (www.ashcroftsurgery.co.uk)
When somebody loses a loved one, it is usually very difficult and trying time. The emotions you are going through are probably quite normal. Often, people think they’re going mad or crazy because they either see things or can’t quite get their ‘head’ straight. But all of this is quite normal.
SOME NORMAL GRIEF REACTIONS YOU SHOULD BE AWARE OF:
The following is a list of things commonly experienced by people who have lost a loved one. These are quite NORMAL and they will soon disappear. None of them mean that you are going mad and many are often out of proportion (like guilt or anger). Try not to be too preoccupied by them – don’t obstruct them, just let them happen. There’s no right way of coping with a death – people respond to a loss in their own individual way.
A BIT MORE ABOUT THE GRIEF REACTION
People who experience bereavement often wonder whether they are depressed, most of the time, they are not – instead, what they are experiencing is a grief reaction – where one’s mood is expected to be low. You may find comfort in knowing that most people manage to carry on with their lives a few months after a loved one has passed on. Grief usually passes through three stages, but these stages are not separate, nor do they necessarily follow in sequence.
WHEN SHOULD I GO AND SEE THE DOCTOR?
As we said before, it takes on average 6 months for a person to get through a bereavement. In some circumstances, people get stuck in the bereavement pathway, and it is in these cases where they may need a doctor to help them move on.
You should go and see your doctor EARLY (i.e. within 2 weeks of the death) if
The worrying symptoms and signs of depression would further indicate that you need to see a doctor:
If you think someone would benefit from talking further or needs more specialist support (by
phone or online), you can direct them to any of the national organisations listed below.
Local Groups Cheshire